You’ve built a good life through years of effort and responsibility. From the outside, things look fine. But somewhere along the way, you’ve become the one holding everything together, and it’s starting to feel heavy.
Each new responsibility adds more pressure, more noise, and less space to think. The problem isn’t your drive or commitment. It’s that you’re stuck reacting instead of choosing how you actually want to live.
If you want things to change, it’s time to stop carrying everything alone, simplify what matters, and create structure that supports you rather than drains you.
Through coaching, I help men regain clarity, build steadiness, and move forward with direction, accountability, and support.
Ready to feel clear, steady, and back in control of your life?
“Working with Ben over the past year has helped me grow across multiple areas of my life and work. Having a regular feedback loop has allowed me to see blind spots, make the decisions I’d been avoiding, and take action with far more confidence and clarity. Ben has a rare ability to ask the right questions, cut through noise, and keep you focused on what actually matters. Beyond the sessions, he consistently goes the extra mile — checking in, being available when it counts, and connecting you with the right people. The progress I’ve made would not have happened — or would have taken far longer — without his support.”**
”Luke | Director of Growth | Dragonfly & Founder of Trackio
STOP CARRYING EVERYTHING,
START MOVING FORWARD.
Before Coaching
Busy weeks with no real sense of progress
Decisions delayed or avoided
Constant mental noise
Living in reaction mode
Little space for yourself or your relationships
Feeling like it’s all on you
Knowing something needs to change, but not where to start
After 3 Months
Clear priorities and direction
Decisions made calmly and confidently
A quieter, steadier head
Responding instead of reacting
Better presence at home and at work
Support instead of doing it alone
Momentum that feels sustainable
When life starts feeling heavier than it should.
Constant Pressure
You’re capable, responsible, and used to
handling things. But the pressure never really lifts. There’s always something to deal with. Something waiting. Something you’re carrying alone. You know you could be living and working differently, but you’re stuck reacting rather than choosing.
Mental Overload
Your head is busy all the time. Decisions linger. Important conversations get delayed. You have a sense of where you want to go, but there’s no clear structure pulling you forward. Instead, weeks pass, and not much actually changes.
Life Out of Balance
On paper, things look fine. In reality, work has started to bleed into everything. You want more space for your health, your relationships, and yourself, but it feels like easing off would only make things worse. You worry that moving forward means more effort, more stress, and even less room to breathe.
Why should I trust you?
I don’t ask men to do work I’m not doing myself. I have my own therapist and business coach, not because something is wrong, but because growth and accountability matter. Anyone guiding others should be willing to be supported themselves.
I also bring well over 1,000 hours of coaching experience and professional accreditation with the Association for Coaching. You can read the evidence of that work in my 50+ Google reviews, written by men who’ve trusted me with real parts of their lives.
There’s another layer of accountability too. Many of my clients live locally. There’s a very real chance I’ll bump into them on the street, in a café, or at the beach. I can’t afford to fail people quietly or hide behind a screen.
And perhaps most tellingly, a number of my clients have become friends. Not because that’s the goal, but because good work tends to build real trust. I see that as a win for everyone involved.
My Coaching Approach
I’m trained in Cognitive Behavioural Coaching and Solution Focused Coaching, which means we focus on clear thinking, better decisions, and steady progress, not endlessly analysing problems.
I’m also Internal Family Systems informed, allowing us to work with the inner tensions many men experience, the part that pushes, the part that’s tired, the part that avoids, without force or theatrics.
Alongside this, I hold a Bachelor’s degree in Human Kinetics and Ergonomics, which keeps the work rooted in how the body, mind, and nervous system actually function under pressure.
Before this work, I spent over 10 years coaching sportsmen and teams across the US, South Africa, and the UK, and later two years as a financial coach with Octopus Money, supporting clients through responsibility, money decisions, and long-term planning.
This combination allows me to help men think clearly, regulate pressure, and take action in a way that’s effective and sustainable. I have well over 1,000 hours of coaching experience and I’m accredited as a Professional Coach with the Association for Coaching.
FAQs
I’ve considered coaching before but never followed through. Why
would this be different?
Most men I work with didn’t avoid coaching because they didn’t care. They avoided it because they didn’t want something abstract, performative, or another thing to manage. This work is practical, grounded, and focused on helping you move forward in real life.
I’m used to being the one others rely on. What if I don’t know how to be the client?
That’s more common than you think. Coaching isn’t about handing responsibility over. It’s about having a place where you don’t have to hold everything together, and where you can think clearly without needing to perform or have answers.
I function well under pressure. Why change that?
Functioning under pressure and living well are not the same thing. Many capable men are very good at coping until they realise the cost. Coaching helps you keep your edge without paying for it with your health, relationships, or sense of self.
I’m not in crisis. Is coaching still relevant?
Yes. Most of my clients aren’t in crisis. They’re at a point where they can sense something is off and want to address it before it turns into a bigger problem.
What if I don’t know exactly what I want yet?
That’s fine. Clarity usually comes through the work, not before it. You don’t need a perfect goal to start, just a willingness to engage honestly.
I’m successful. Why do I still feel unsettled?
Success doesn’t automatically bring clarity, connection, or peace. Many men reach a level they once aimed for and realise it didn’t answer the questions they thought it would. Coaching gives you space to look at that without blowing your life up.
Will this turn into talking about feelings all the time?
No. We deal with whatever is relevant, thoughts, emotions, decisions, behaviour, but always with the aim of helping you move forward, not dwell.
I value independence. Will this make me reliant on coaching?
No. The aim is the opposite. Good coaching leaves you clearer, more self-trusting, and better able to navigate life without constant external input.
What kind of men does this not work for?
Men looking for shortcuts, quick fixes, or someone to do the work for them. This requires honesty, effort, and a willingness to take responsibility.
What’s the next step?
If this resonates, book an intro call. We’ll have a straightforward conversation and see whether working together makes sense.